“Look well into thyself; there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.

Before reading the entire article, take this quotation deep inside you and let it create an impact. Let every other vibe be shut and let only the good one flow. Take some time and look into yourself for finding out the source of strength that is being hindered since ages. This Roman Emperor has spoken about the most important thing in our lives, which certain people don’t live with while some others can’t live without – Self-confidence.

Self-confidence or self-assurance is a potent factor in every aspect of our lives. Be it in the high school participation, be it in the college fests or some college musicals, or be it in some work-related conference, you need it in every moment of your life. Some people are born with ample amount of it while others lack it big time. It gets very tough for the ones who lack it as it is likely to be difficult for them to find the right inspiration which would boost them up for building the self-confidence. Many of the times, you may find that your confidence in yourself varies from situation to situation and that you naturally become a victim of the situation. In other words, in spite of carrying it with you, you cannot just a make an use of it in certain right and emergent situations. Have you ever thought why? The answer is your state of psychology with that particular situation. Your belief in yourself, people present in that situation, their conduct towards you, etc have a lot to contribute in such cases to give a blow to your self-confidence. However, nothing on this planet is impossible; not even building up or strengthening your confidence.

Let us talk about the major points on which your focus should always be. Note that instead of focusing only on “what-to-do”, also try to enlighten yourself with the ideas of “what-not-to-do” as listed below.

Best Tips on How to be More Confident Quickly

Believe in the Inner Belief to keep Your Negativities at Bay

Do you know that 99% of your thinkings have the potential to actually occur in your life irrespective of it being positive or negative? If you are a negative thinker, this should be a waking alarm for you because you are the sole reason for the “dark side” of your life. Yes, those incidents could be just as normal as usual incidents if your self-assurance was high in those days, if only you had thought them to be a mere stumbling block in your road of success and not something like a permanent road blocker.

Self-confidence is urgently needed during your bad times the most. If you succeed to cross a situation holding yourself high up and rich in belief, you should congratulate yourself for you have just begun to become a better version of yourself. A self-confident person will never let any negative vibes even get an access to his/her mind because he/she has the belief to rise or overcome them which is 10 times stronger than the strength of the situation to pull him/her off. Therefore, keep them away from you so that you don’t lose your faith in yourself and even if they bump into you, you have the choice of picking up the strongest weapon to fight it off, that is, Self Confidence. Your positive mind is not enough to make you pass through it all, your actions should show the positivity stored in your mind too.

Learn your Strengths and Weakness

Whatever you are today, didn’t happen overnight. Whatever you want to be tomorrow, cannot happen overnight either. For a good and healthy start, you should spare a couple of minutes for yourself and learn what are changes you want to bring in yourself tomorrow. You are free to make a list and determine the weaknesses you deal with every day. Recall the thing you were not capable of doing a month back and how you fought over the time to make it one of your capabilities. Doesn’t it make you feel confident? Sure, it does. Similarly, by turning your weaknesses into your strengths, you can create quite a lot of building blocks and establish your confidence securely, for good. Another important thing that you should be aware of is, procrastinating your “what-to-do-list” makes you feel weaker from inside and ultimately hampers the built up confidence in you. To avoid such situations, hurry up and clear everything off that list. You will undoubtedly feel greater than before and your mind will register the current success and boost you up to put more efforts so that you keep going and don’t stop. Doing something is always better than being stuck up with nothingness. By doing something or anything every day you will make mistakes which are essential for learning about you and your life so get off your butt and be active.

Recall the thing you were not capable of doing a month back and how you fought over the time to make it one of your capabilities. Doesn’t it make you feel confident? Sure, it does. Similarly, by turning your weaknesses into your strengths, you can create quite a lot of building blocks and establish your confidence securely, for good. Another important thing that you should be aware of is, procrastinating your “what-to-do-list” makes you feel weaker from inside and ultimately hampers the built up confidence in you. To avoid such situations, hurry up and clear everything off that list. You will undoubtedly feel greater than before and your mind will register the current success and boost you up to put more efforts so that you keep going and don’t stop. Doing something is always better than being stuck up with nothingness. By doing something or anything every day you will make mistakes which are essential for learning about you and your life so get off your butt and be active.

Groom Yourself Head to Toe

If you like to take yourself for granted, you can never be confident about yourself sadly. The prime key to stop this is to start loving yourself; the moment you start loving yourself, your world changes. No matter what you are, you can be a student or an office worker, it is important for you to dress up for your success to notice you. If you choose to be a dull-looking, low esteemed, underconfident, whining person, would you be able to achieve a place for yourself in today’s world? The answer is a big fat no. Nowadays, it has become very significant to showcase yourself properly in the world’s platform. Grooming yourself does not only mean to look good but also to feel good about yourself. When you try to strengthen your inner weaknesses, the outer weaknesses should be also taken into account for a complete makeover of yourself. You are a beautiful soul and you are capable of showcasing that at every step of life. So, don’t just ruin that self-image of yours and rise up as a better “You”. You don’t deserve rejection or failure, therefore, start buckling up now and make the necessary changes. When you look and feel good, there is nothing to stop you from feeling super confident.

Nowadays, it has become very significant to showcase yourself properly in the world’s platform. Grooming yourself does not only mean to look good but also to feel good about yourself. When you try to strengthen your inner weaknesses, the outer weaknesses should be also taken into account for a complete makeover of yourself. You are a beautiful soul and you are capable of showcasing that at every step of life. So, don’t just ruin that self-image of yours and rise up as a better “You”. You don’t deserve rejection or failure, therefore, start buckling up now and make the necessary changes. When you look and feel good, there is nothing to stop you from feeling super confident.

Groom Yourself Head to Toe
Groom Yourself Head to Toe

Success Should be your Thought of Mind and not Failure

Do you remember the childhood days of your life when dreaming was the only invariant thing you used to do? Life was so simple back then and it only emitted positivity as negativity was unknown to us in those days. Make your life a mixture of those good childhood days and your present. You will discover a newer You- with a head full of dreams and the mind or determination capable of making them come true. By doing this, you will also put an end to those negative thoughts that keep bouncing inside your mind. Forget the word “failure”. There are no words like failure, impossible and rejection in a world of positivity. This does not mean that you have to be impractical all the time and live in a fairyland where nothing could go wrong. No. You just have to have a control on the things and vibes you are inviting and the access you are providing. While filtering your mind, allow the positive stuff instead of the negative stuff. That is all. Your life will be a lot more beautiful than what it is now. When you keep getting succeeded one after the other, your self-confidence will know no bounds and there you will be, self-sufficient, self-confident and known to your surroundings because of the efforts you made for bringing the “change”. Even if you fail in the tests of life, stand up stronger, as you will get to know what it takes.

Success
Success

Try Being Kind

This might sound stupid to you and you must be thinking if there is any connection between your harsh behavior or social conduct and your lack of self-confidence. Well, you will get your answer pretty soon. By being kind and generous to the people around you, you will make a major change in your “self-image”.  Now the moment you or others notice this change, trust me you will feel royally good. This good vibe will push you to improve your errors and flaws in your character and with time, you will see yourself as a more confident person than what you were before following this. It might be obviously tough for you to suddenly become someone you don’t want to be. To become someone out of your comfort zone is no doubt difficult but to try being a better form of yourself should always be welcomed. You may not push yourself too hard to make it look unnatural. Improve by one step at a time. There is no rush or deadlines, take your time and bring out the positive and better “You”. While doing this, your mind will be affected in a good way too. You will set up a habit for yourself to become Omni Positive which is the secret and hidden key for your success in the future.

Try Being Kind
Try Being Kind

Improve Your Approach

Ever thought that your body language, eye contact or approaching behavior can add to your self-confidence? Yes, it is true that these factors are responsible for your inner confidence to flourish. While talking to someone, if you keep on looking here and there and not at the person talking to you or if you don’t make eye contacts while conversing, it means that you are shy, unworthy and low esteemed. It is a serious issue in people who lack confidence in them and this is one of the reasons behind their failures. Don’t be that person who inflicts a wrong image of himself/herself while making a conversation. Not being able to gaze at the person during conversation also means that you are not interested or showing disrespect to the other person. Besides, your body language has a louder impact on others than your actual speaking language. If you sit at the corner of a room in a sluggish and sloppy manner busy with your phone in a room full of crowd, will anyone show interest to come and say hi? Well, you know the answer. Therefore, try being approachable. Talk freely while you are talking, use your hand movements to make a point while explaining something and keep a steady gaze. This creates a major pillar of self-confidence inside you. Don’t let others take you for granted. Speak with confidence, walk with high esteem and present yourself generously before people. So, the next time you attend a party or a social gathering, be the right person.

Not being able to gaze at the person during conversation also means that you are not interested or showing disrespect to the other person. Besides, your body language has a louder impact on others than your actual speaking language. If you sit at the corner of a room in a sluggish and sloppy manner busy with your phone in a room full of crowd, will anyone show interest to come and say hi? Well, you know the answer. Therefore, try being approachable. Talk freely while you are talking, use your hand movements to make a point while explaining something and keep a steady gaze. This creates a major pillar of self-confidence inside you. Don’t let others take you for granted. Speak with confidence, walk with high esteem and present yourself generously before people. So, the next time you attend a party or a social gathering, be the right person.

Talk to Yourself

This might again sound stupid, irrelevant and crazy but it has been scientifically proven that talking to yourself does wonder for the people with low self-confidence. Talking to yourself makes you smarter, more confident and helps to improve your memory power. This is a simple mind trick and you can do it anytime according to your convenience. Talk about your day to yourself or the problems you are facing currently. Make sure that your speaking tone is always positive and that you don’t say even by mistake, the phrase “I cannot”. Whatever you say to yourself influences greatly your neurobiological responses in that situation. So, if you are facing any problems or cannot make a way out of it, take some time out and talk to yourself. You are the best adviser and the best implementer as well. Draw some good and positive conclusions and tell yourself that you are capable of making it through. This will boost your self-confidence on a large scale and you will never worry about you suffering from lack of confidence ever again.

Talk to Yourself to be more Confident
Talk to Yourself to be more Confident

Lastly, you should remember that like Self Confidence and Belief, Patience is the pillars of a successful life too. You will get better only if you keep your patience intact and move on following the above-mentioned points. All of these are related to building up your character and creating a better new You. Hence, get started on this exciting journey of character makeover hanging that flawless smile.